Stay Away From Anger.
1. “Refrain from anger, and forsake wrath! Fret not yourself; it tends only to evil.” – Psalms 37:8.
2. “But you, O Lord, are a God merciful and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love and faithfulness.” – Psalms 86:15.
3. “Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who has a hasty temper exalts folly.” – Proverbs 14:29.
Anger is an emotion characterized by antagonism toward someone or something you feel has deliberately done you wrong.
Anger can also be a good thing, because it can give you a way to express negative feelings, or motivate you to find solutions to problems.
But excessive anger can cause problems. It can also bread violence which can lead to undesirable consequences in the home, marriage, relationship or the work place.
So do not allow anger to rule you!
Here is a short story which I culled from social media about how a man allowed his anger to rule him and the consequences thereafter.
He allowed his anger to rule him…
“Where are you coming from by this time of the night?”
“Honey you won’t believe what happened today… Oh God I’m so tired right now.”
She replied as she yawned.
“I asked where you are coming from and you are vomiting rubbish. Does that answer my question?
Are you trying to pretend you don’t know there’s no food in this house?”
He said fuming.
“Honey I’m sorry but you should hear me out first. I… “
Before she could complete that sentence, a thunderous slap kissed her left cheek as she fell and passed out on the sofa.
“Get my dinner ready, after that you will tell me why you switched off your phone.”
He said as he walked towards the bedroom.
When he noticed there was no response from his wife, he became even more infuriated.
He rushed towards her to unleash the rest of the demon in him, but on getting closer to her, he discovered she had passed out.
He was shocked.
Cold sweat appeared on his forehead and raced down his temple.
Fear gripped him.
He began to panic.
He dashed into the bedroom, picked his car keys and darted out of the house to open his car.
He rushed back into the house almost immediately, lifted his wife and headed back to his car.
As he made to start the ignition, the car key fell off his hand.
He was visibly shaking.
Picking up the car keys proved to be a difficult task to him as he couldn’t get a hold of it.
He eventually succeeded but had to use both hands to start the ignition. His shaky hands turned against him.
His heart was racing.
He couldn’t hold the steering firmly but he managed to drive his way to the hospital.
Arriving at the hospital, he alerted the nurses.
His wife was rushed into the emergency ward.
He became restless.
After about five minutes, the doctor finally appeared to him.
“Good evening Mr. Collins.”
“Good evening doctor, how’s my wife?” He replied with great panic.
“Your wife was here a few hours ago. She brought your mum to the hospital before going home and if she had been ten minutes late, your mum would have died.
She wanted to alert you but her phone battery went flat. I wanted to call you but she said she would notify you when she got home. What really happened?” the doctor asked.
“Doctor, is my wife okay?” he asked with teary eyes.
“Your mum is in the other ward Mr Collins.” the doctor replied.
He couldn’t hide his impatience as he gripped the doctor’s shirt tightly.
“What about my wife doctor? Is she okay?” he shouted.
The doctor managed to pull his hands off his shirt before letting the cat out of the bag.
“I’m sorry Mr. Collins, your wife couldn’t make it. She’s dead.”
He was shocked.
Cold shivers ran down his spine.
He began to shake.
Hot tears welled up his eyes and as he made an attempt to speak, they raced down his cheeks.
Liquid fluids leaked out of his nostrils and wetted his lips. His shirt suddenly became drenched with sweat.
He wanted to man up, but he couldn’t.
He groaned in pain and let out a mad shout.
But then, it was too late to correct his mistake. It was too late to apologize to his wife.
He should have rather heard her story first as she requested.
He should have controlled his anger.
He shouldn’t have laid his hand on her at all.
He should have been a bit patient with her and simply listened to what she had to say.
He shouldn’t have…
He should have…
But he didn’t.
It was now just too late to apologize for hitting her the way he did in anger.
Don’t you ever make such a mistake again, for you have no idea what might happen afterwards.
It was Mr. Collins’s very first time of hitting his wife; now he wished to God he hadn’t.
Here are a few lessons to learn from what excessive ANGER has done to some great men from the scriptures.
1. Cain and Abel: “In the course of time Cain brought some of the fruits of the soil as an offering to the LORD. But on Cain and his offering he did not look with favor. So Cain was very angry, and his face was downcast.” – Gen. 4:3-17.
Cain was very much consumed with envy and jealousy over his brother Abel because God had rejected his offering. He got into a fit of anger which eventually led to him striking down and killing Abel in the process.
Cain committed murder because he got very angry and that anger in him made him do the unthinkable.
Incidentally, that was the very first homicide to be recorded on earth, and that was the fruit of excessive anger.
2. Moses: In his anger, Moses throws down the tablets of stone, shattering the 2 stone tablets that God had made. – Ex 32:19.
In Numbers 20:10-12, Moses, filled with anger, disobeys God and the result was that God would not let Moses enter into the promise land.
There are several other instances of Moses getting angry and we have seen what some of the consequences of it. So let us not allow anger to destroy us.
Anger is a very lethal enemy to progress so lets beware and control our emotions whenever it comes knocking on our door.
3. Haman and Mordecai: “When Haman saw that Mordecai neither bowed down nor paid homage to him, Haman was filled with rage.” – Esther 3:5.
We all know the story behind this favourite scripture. Haman was consumed with anger and plotted to hame Mordecai hanged by the gallows. At the end of the story he himself got hanged by his own gallows.
Anger is a very dangerous disease if I may put it that way, and so we must try our very best to stay away from it before it destroys us.
The Bible warns that holding on to anger can lead to sin, which is just one of many reasons why letting go of our anger can be something to spend some quality time to work towards.
Additionally, letting go of anger clears your mind for more positive things in your life such as joy and gratitude.
Whether you have a short temper like Moses, or you get easily upset about something; (this has been one of my very own weaknesses), or anger that’s been building up in you for a while, these Bible verses about anger discussed above will give you perspective and help you work through your anger and eventually help you manage it.
Finally, “kind words are like honey, sweet to the soul and healthy for the body”. – Proverbs 16:24.
Anger is like darkness, and kind words are like light. So allow the light to dispell the darkness within at all times. Instead of being angry over someone, rather use kind words to diffuse the volatile situation.
I hope the above story and discussions has already taught us great lessons about the need to be able to control anger.
Please stay away from excessive ANGER… It always breads VIOLENCE.
Have a happy Sunday and stay blessed in the Lord!